On Night 2, baby girl could feed every 2.5 hours, and so on. You can read 100 stories here where the medical team coerces mom into getting pitocin, tells her lie in the bed for hours at a time, does cervical checks without consent, and so on. I didn’t take it as a guidebook, but more just an added perspective since I look at parenting through a very American lens. For reference I’m also a POC, but that doesn’t mean my position still can’t be one of privilege so that’s fair enough and a good point to think more about. You would only be motivated to go through the effort if you felt like you were the victim of malpractice, which is what this path is supposed to be for. That was probably the one thing in the book that was just objectively better in France. of real people’s feelings but I’m kind of taking it as more of a theoretical approach. Like I said, I ultimately think it’s good that in the US there is more respect given to different preferences and needs. Originally posted by peachu. I used to live in France, and it's expected (and common) for babies to sleep through the night starting at a couple months. Since Day 5, I've been able to put her down "drowsy but awake" for almost all naps and bedtimes. Why no sleep after your epidural? I am first trimester, don’t have a birth plan at this point except for some vague ideas, but I will say, one of the hardest things about pregnancy so far has been the loss of control. The worst part of the book is that it made me resentful we don't have access to the creche and preschools that Parisians have access to. Yea like I didn’t want to just dismiss that entire part immediately because of its echoing of patriarchy and misogyny. Yep you heard it here moms, the secret to being as happy as the French is to accept that even though you and your husband work full time, you’ll be doing twice as much house work for the next 18 years and you should just decide this fact makes you happy actually. I actually really vibe with the “don’t rock the boat, just order off the menu” mentality, but I’m more about autonomy when it comes to giving birth. Pictures or links posted without content will be removed. I'm glad to hear it before I-" - "Don't say it! What that French doctor said about “giving birth on your back with your legs open” .. sounds really okay to me. [–]lirulin17 [score hidden] 16 hours ago (6 children). Then on the very next page after this statistic, the author backtracks and says fathers do help out because she sometimes sees “scruffy” dads taking kids to the park. The dads in France are actually worse than the US though! srs so much of the time when people cry "cancel culture is so toxic" it's to excuse some bigoted guru being bigoted. THIS. I personally loved the book. . Not even because I believe they’re all automatically better approaches, but because they just encouraged me to not just take for granted all of the cultural norms and practices I’ve gotten used to. So put on those skinny jeans, bitch, because … you will feel so much better looking beautiful again after having your baby!” . The experience of pregnancy and the data in Expecting Better by Emily Oster (which suggests that the choice is often between a rougher labor or a rougher recovery in statistical generalizations, of course individual experiences differ widely). I also think sometimes women that are FTMs think xyz will be ok, but in retrospect, you can never truly know until you have had your birth. Anonymous said: dude stop Is there somewhere was one of the best smut i have read in my life!!!!! But when you show up to deliver, you’ve got to work with the pros you’re assigned, whatever their failings: forcing them into unfamiliar situations worsens the outcomes. Unlike parenting fads that come and go, this book will always be After mine I slept for a good 10 hours straight. My only feedback to your comments on birthing position is that, as I understand, laboring on your back with legs spread will restrict movement of the sacrum and space in the pelvic outlet, thus decreasing opening for baby to rotate and exit. Anyway since French parents spend park time hanging out and drinking coffee, these sightings are hardly evidence of a hard working dad. For that one nap, she low-level cried for 10 minutes before falling asleep on her own. Sorry, nobody needs a whole pizza or whole cake, pregnant or not. The overt “do it for your husband!” messaging did rub me the wrong way in some parts but I feel like it’s more that putting in the effort to look good for your romantic partner often makes you feel good. Epidurals can be great, they can also slow down labour and lead to a higher number of interventions. Submitted by: xofiasblog This took forever to make but it was fun ��� Mupp/en: Aaaaah your style is so cute! She quickly noticed how French children behaved very differently from her own. I don’t mean to be offensive but it felt so refreshing to not hear more about losing your identity to motherhood, having no time or interest in yourself (even personal hygiene), pushing your marriage to the bottom of your priority list. It took about a week to fully equilibrate. Anyway, I’m curious if you’ve done much research into different birthing techniques and preferences, or if you’re choosing an epidural and back labor because it’s the standard in the US? I think that whether or not a woman chooses to work on her sex appeal is up to her, but it shouldn't be seen as a postpartum priority when there's typically so many other responsibilities and expectations thrust upon the woman. Middle class and lower class women overall will never have the opportunities to catch up to men if the burden keeps falling on them. !I love the big eyes! Also I had a small allergic reaction to the epidural and itched head to toe. [–]TwoRoads2Travel [score hidden] 14 hours ago* (0 children). Here it is for your enjoyment . Yeah, I was in agreement with you and digging the epidural route before I got pregnant. Then, I sit on the ground (out of sight) until she goes to sleep, so I can be there if she does get worked up and needs an additional 1-2 minutes of bouncing/shushing. [–]Theno2pencil [score hidden] 12 hours ago (0 children). [–]pmmeyourpetphoto [score hidden] 15 hours ago (1 child). By Night 8, she seemed to be getting used to this new schedule. Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting (Audiobook) by. While trying to secure a $1 million donation for his museum, a befuddled paleontologist is pursued by a flighty and often irritating heiress and ��� I feel like a lot of the American "i haven't taken a shower in days" type stuff, or the "i never have time for myself" type stuff is a result of 2 things: shitty husbands/partners who don't step up and do their share (which, in France, seems to be mitigated by their excellent affordable child care). Then there’s the fact that French husbands are total dead weight around the house, but their wives are fine with that. [–]starspeakr [score hidden] 9 hours ago (0 children). I think a lot of birthing people need more control. A little crying/fussing is fine, because she's learning a new skill. ), [–]WaterBearDontMindFTM graduated 01.27.19 [score hidden] 11 hours ago (2 children). Like this compulsion to constantly customize your environment - definitely resonated with things I realize I do sometimes, and many of my peers here do to extremes (like the ordering off the menu thing... if I had a nickel for every time I was out to dinner with someone who needed to ask 100 questions and change out ingredients...). :). I think there was still something there that’s helpful in just the sense about maintaining your identity. I had to stop reading because I felt so angry at our system and how little it does to support mothers and children, despite certain segments of our society proclaiming the family is the most important part of American life. On Day 2, it worked for two naps. Then I had to keep her up a bit later (she wanted to go to sleep at 6pm)!. Medical professionals also face big consequences if you so much as slip while birthing in a squat (or whatever): it’s unfair to expect full flexibility from them while they assume so much risk. Try again the next nap. I also found the “bounce back for your husband” message to be a little misogynistic. [–]SamiLMS1 Autumn 8/8/2020 [score hidden] 14 hours ago (0 children). ). On Day 1, this only worked for one nap. [–]lirulin17 [score hidden] 16 hours ago* (3 children). The loss of control has been very difficult and I’m not surprised at all that some women try to control what they can. ... Bebe is hands down the funniest character on the entire show. Please enjoy these two short videos of my daughter punching herself in the face and trying to walk up my uterine wall. However, this one didn't really resonate with me--it relied more on anecdotal proof (I'm much more of a "research and studies" gal), and the extinction method didn't jive with me. Multiple reasons - it didn’t fully take in my cervix, just my legs, so I still felt the contractions (On pitocin) but couldn’t move so I had a panic attack. I've lived in France before, but not as a mom, so this book was a great way to understand the different approaches to parenting. I was going crazy. I opted for no pain medicine with my next birth. We should be honest and call the bad parts for what they are. I use the same bedtime routine for all naps and bedtime, and it's very short (5-10 minutes). But having that as the default has negatively demonstrative outcomes when applied to a population at large, with high c section rates and maternal ptsd. Is it just me or is putting on socks the worst?! The author seems aware of this but thinks it is good, actually, because it is so successful at keeping women thin. There’s certainly a lot of entitlement in the US to have things your way, and that’s often been quite celebrated, but at the same time there are plenty of examples where that really goes awry (hello anti-maskers..) so I found it good food for thought. Will go read your post, but doubt it will change my mind. (Apparently men don’t have a responsibility to look beautiful at all times, imagine that.) put down "drowsy but awake"). We get a lot of that as expectant mothers in the US. That’s made me do my research on different birthing techniques to prepare myself for my experience, and my research led me to prefer an unmedicated vaginal birth with active labor and mother-led pushing. I think that she goes to sleep faster without my interference. And I believe the American pressure for women to silently suffer even to the point of psychosis is something that should be called out and that mothers should be encouraged to strike the right balance between being themselves/happy and doing what is best for the child. While other friends have had detailed preferences with regards to pain management, interventions offered and after birth choices. Our rainbow baby's nursery is complete @ 36 weeks! A year ago, Amy Chua, a.k.a. If you weren't stuck with a $20,000 bill after giving birth, then maybe a lawsuit wouldn't seem worth it right? Having had an epidural, there wasn’t any sleeping until time to push for me. But I’m like, why do you need to walk around if you’re not feeling pain anyway? I never actually used the Ferber method of CIO! WAKING TO EAT A BILLION TIMES A NIGHT (more or less). Excuse the repetition of bringing this up again but was hoping to see if anyone out there agrees with my personal takeaway building on previous feedback I’ve seen on this sub. So on Night 1, baby girl could feed every 2 hours. I dunno. Reddit gives you the best of the internet in one place. Advice on coaching baby not to need the boob so often at night? We do occasionally have a hard time--she's refused some afternoon naps, and some bedtimes are rough, especially when naps haven't gone well that day. For me, that's the biggest injustice of patriarchy (old men deciding what should or shouldn't be publicly funded and expecting women to stay at home or be rich enough to afford tons of care, or lucky enough to land a lucrative part time job that pays the bills but doesn't require more than fulltime nanny and daycare). So this is actually worse for the patient's safety because a cesarian has more risks than a vaginal birth. You may not think you’d do that, but plenty of people would. On top of the lack of general social supports. This is a big difference between doctors and midwives. And like yeah people can grow and change but as a white person I don't get to "accept" the apology and consider it square and her a changed person. I definitely didn't agree with the childbirth part or the "maintaining sex appeal for your husband" part, but a lot of the other stuff in the book was interesting :), [–]BButFirstCoffeeTeam Blue! I did a lot of research, and tried many different things. If she's awake in bed, but happy and quiet, I leave her alone. Chua outlines the severe 'worse than helicopter mom' regime she imposed on her two daughters, Lulu and Sophia, to ensure their academic success, a strategy she ��� She calmed down much easier when my SO would take her (probably because he didn't smell like milk!). It just got me thinking that maybe the French approach is simply a more practical solution.. not necessarily “better” but kind of just taking the current beauty standards in stride and coping accordingly for their own sanity... if that makes sense? I have one friend who's birth plans for bothe her births was "to come home with a baby". She took to this like a duck to water! I’m almost done with Bringing Up Bebe, too—though I mostly was interested in parenting differences over birthing. Especially as a millennial woman living in NYC, a lot of what she referenced to REALLY hit home for me and I think she articulated it so well. Which leads me into her descriptions of their attitudes around birth. And I want to emphasize that it all comes down to personal choice—there are pros and cons to every decision here, and no single technique is right for everyone. (This is noted in multiple sources, and here's an article that talks a bit about it). Bringing up Bebe book My husband and I just started TTC so I���m planning to read a few pregnancy/parenting books. I guess I just found their lesser tolerance for guilt refreshing and something I’m thinking more about implementing in my own life now. I’d be happy to get anesthesia and just sleep until I need to push. and join one of thousands of communities. What it���s about: The ex-pat author of Bringing Up Bébé examines what it means to turn 40 ��� and why the French, bien sûr, do it better. Made me feel so jealous. I know that it's considered normal in American culture for babies to sleep poorly, and for parents to get up frequently at night for the first year or longer. Get any audiobook FREE during your Free Trial. I am one of those STMs-to-be and had some of the complications that came with on my back birth + epidural. And if all you really care about is being safe, ie you don’t mind an episiotomy or ending a blood patch from a bad spinal (for example), I’d say you’re lucky honestly. If she grumbled or soft cried, I would leave her. It reached the tipping point yesterday when he hid the formula so I'd have "no choice" but to breastfeed our daughter. [–]QualityNameSelection [score hidden] 16 hours ago (0 children). Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. She usually sleeps about 6 hours, then nurses, then sleeps another 4.5-5 hours before waking up for the day. A place for pregnant redditors, those who have been pregnant, those who wish to be in the future, and anyone who supports them. Baby cries for 3-4 hours at bedtime every night! No epidural for baby #2 was a very easy choice for me! Something is alive and then it���s dead. When the New York Liberty signed Layshia Clarendon back in February, back when the world was a bit normal, she was seen as the back-up and mentor to Sabrina Ionescu and a ��� So comments like "I haven't taken a shower in days" that I see do not reflect my experience at all. It sucks that the system is so broken that hospital policy is written by lawyers. I agree with many of your points, but the reason to move around during birth is because it actually helps the labor process along. I really appreciated the view in the book that you don't need to give up everything about yourself in service of your child, and that this isn't even necessarily good for the child. I feel like if I continue to bounce her or interact with her, I'm getting in the way of her falling asleep. The whole free daycare and preschool thing!! Oh I loved this book I read it before TTC and again during my third trimester! and more power to them. [–]talkytalkytime [score hidden] 11 hours ago (0 children). The author acts like these things are an inseparable whole package but they aren’t. Narrating your toddler���s every playground move like he���s in a wildlife documentary is a North American phenomenon, according Bringing [score hidden] 15 hours ago (3 children). But I do want to like the appearance of my body again... for myself. The French celebrate beauty, which is fine, but I got a sinister vibe. I eliminated hours of crying at bedtime by shifting baby's "sleep time" earlier by 15 minutes a day. Furthermore, according to both my pediatrician and modern research (Ferber talks about it in his book, for example), a four month old baby should only have to feed 1-2 times per night, and a five month old baby should only have to feed 0-1 times per night. When I started, the most urgent situation to fix was baby crying for 3-4 hours every night. It's one of the biggest changes of your life and we're all here to support one another! Small outerspace themed nursery - Old house, Better late than never. When she gets good sleep, she is such a happy baby! However, I've had multiple nights where she's slept 8 hours in a row! Emery Blue born 12/11/2020 at 9:36 am weighing 7 lbs 3 oz. It is very obvious that French culture (the way it’s described here, by an American author) has an undercurrent of sexism and body shaming. However, in court the hospital will look better if they did more interventions! One. [–]sakijane [score hidden] 14 hours ago (1 child). It makes it almost impossible to strike the healthiest balance for many women. For the sake of discussion, why don't you agree with the idea of maintaining sex appeal for your husband? you're going to have criticism no matter your choice, because there is a choice to be made. I just felt like my perspective wasn’t the norm, but if that comes from a place of privilege that’s fair enough and a good point to raise. If it���s not one of the trio then, well, someone���s got a big surprise. Honestly it seems weird to imply that too much parental autonomy is the problem with giving birth in the US, when the opposite is true! I suppose the upside of a society that is very community-oriented is that while there are seemingly fewer choices, you won't be getting that same criticism. Very good points that I don’t often see acknowledged. Sometimes, she does nurse to sleep, but it's not a habit and hasn't seemed to cause any problems. It's important for her to learn that she can be safe and happy by herself (she doesn't need me there all the time). That was the one bit of the book I definitely disagreed with and thought was out of touch, but overall, I liked the messages about how to raise a child to fit into the family, what things to be strict about and how to give them freedom within that structure as well. Congratulations on this working for you. A birth plan is an incredibly useful tool for evaluating how you feel about the birth process and doing a risk assessment on the different pain management options. Not to mention the chefs preparing fresh, real food for those children. edit subscriptions. If I were in the US, I probably would have gone the epidural route, too, but in Germany, its standard to labor with movement and let gravity help you get the baby out. I don’t mean to be presumptuous as I said I’m not yet pregnant. I actually posted here, asking for help (Help! In general I found a lot of the attitudes she described to be a healthy dose of perspective for me. Maybe it all starts with childhood. America is litigious as fuck. When we first started this, LO was 4 months old and a bit too young for any sort of true "sleep training," so I decided to do "sleep coaching.". The second thing is some sort of performative martyrdom on behalf of women trying to win points for how devoted they are to motherhood which frankly just doesn't seem healthy for anyone. I feel like I have so much more free time these days, I'm much more awake, I enjoy my baby so much more, and I feel like SHE is so much happier. Google has many special features to help you find exactly what you're looking for. I can really tell the difference when she's had an "off night" (and has woken up multiple times, needing to be bounced back to sleep), verses when she's slept through. TestaOnFire Reddit Profile (OverView), View TestaOnFire Comments and Posts.. I’m definitely open-minded to the fact that my mind could completely change later on. I got the impression that compared to the US, French women have to do more work and also look put together at the same time. You hear this a lot, often as a moral judgement like, oh those terrible selfish people who just want to ruin doctor's careers for a quick buck. [–]lirulin17 [score hidden] 11 hours ago (0 children). It moves the baby and gets it into the best position, often faster, but not in every case. ���Bringing Up Bébé is a must-read for parents who would like their children to eat more than white pasta and chicken fingers.��� ��� Fox News ���On questions of how to live, the French never disappoint. ENDLESS BOUNCING (i.e. And actually the whole assembly line thing is also common in the US. A place to ask and answer questions all related to pregnancy. I stretched out time between night feedings by a half hour each night. It's time to go to sleep." On. [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (4 children). On Days 4 and 5, we had a bit of backsliding, and drowsy but awake worked about half the time. On Day 3, it worked for three (of the four) naps, PLUS it worked for bedtime! FTM 19 +4, I had my anatomy ultrasound today. She seems so much happier now. my subreddits. Baby cries for 3-4 hours at bedtime every night! I feel like a loon, and I say it about a billion times before every nap and bedtime. In essence, I was stretching out the time between night feedings by a half hour each night. This whole process takes 5-10 minutes max. She would go back to sleep quickly, but I felt like a zombie. I don't think either are wrong or bad, but I am grateful to have options (and I'm sure those feelings are a direct product of our society and culture! https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352013219301309, Epidurals, lying down delivery, have their place but they should be for the mother's benefit, not the doctors, [–]Cassiebo123 [score hidden] 14 hours ago (1 child). Americans are actually better off in this respect. The book has good advice, but to find it you have to wade through a LOT of existential dread about getting fat. I saw this book was recommended and had been previously discussed on this sub, and I was intrigued by the discussions so I wanted to read it myself - I just finished it. Your husband would have been fired from his job years ago if he were really unable to remember simple tasks and appointments. I still want my husband to want to have sex with me. Rendered by PID 21885 on r2-app-049f22e1912a286d5 at 2021-01-06 09:53:21.615990+00:00 running 15b6a67 country code: US. While I think birthing on your back with an epidural is just peachy if that's what you want to do, my alarm bells sound reading the quote from the doctor. Look madam, that’s a damn lie. The part about caring what you look like and how American women use pregnancy as an excuse to eat a lot more than they normally would definitely hit home for me. . I’d be curious if french society similarly wrests control away from parents so early. fluoridex toothpaste reddit, Fluoridex® Sensitivity Relief Toothpaste- Clean Mint 2262US6 Fluoridex ® offers a Sensitivity Relief formula that combines maximum-strength fluoride to inhibit caries and enhance remineralization, with 5% potassium nitrate for sensitivity relief. CONQUERING "DROWSY BUT AWAKE"), The next problem I wanted to address was needing to bounce her for 15-30 minutes before every nap and bedtime. Definitely a good call to exercise moderation. I think childbirth is one place where you need to be flexible but it’s absolutely ok to have preferences, and everyone should be educated on their options so they can advocate for themselves. Listen to thousands of best sellers and new releases on your iPhone, iPad, or Android. So the legal motivation is actually worse for medical outcomes! For example, as other said laboring on your back is shown to lead to more complications and a higher chance of a cesarian. I broke two bills by gaining 35 lbs. It's hard in the moment, but really pays off. It's also really important to me not to lose myself as a woman after becoming a mom. So they push for a situation they can best control, because at least they are trained to address complications specifically from labor and delivery. I don’t disagree with you! Anyone else feel super lonely being pregnant during a pandemic? By Day 5, I was able to put her down drowsy but awake for pretty much all naps/bedtimes. I really did like some of the advice, especially about having kids eat grown up food. in a way I can see how it must be easier for sure to just go with the flow along with everyone else! Help! My method: I would bounce her until she was almost-but-not-quite sleeping (eyes closing). I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I always make sure I shower and I do my hair and make up nearly every day if I can. Directed by Howard Hawks. Delivering on your back lying down is useful for doctors to be able to assess where you are, but it's a terrible position for labouring, and again carries with it significant risk to both the mother and the baby. I don't think it is necessarily patriarchal to feel like you can look as hot as you used to look, that you can be happy and carve out time for yourself, that you should feel that you can continue your career. She is relieved that nobody bothers pregnant people for drinking coffee (great!) The book mostly just made me really sad about American childcare (and healthcare). The book even includes statistics of how much housework/ childcare parents do in each country and the gender disparity was much worse in France. Anyway I wanted to vent because the author is so uncritical of aspects of French life that are clearly toxic. Your body no longer feels like your own because it’s doing these crazy things, people’s ideas of personal space go out the fuckin window when you’re preggo, and as soon as you start announcing you realize that this little bean that barely even exists is already having mountains of expectation placed on them by the outside world. I know that pregnancy is always uncomfortable, but you know what else is painful and exhausting? I liked, and have adopted the bigger themes - prioritize my physical and mental health (don’t sacrifice my whole self and relationships for “motherhood”), guilt and anxiety can be the culture I live in but I can choose to not buy into it (and buy into all the pricy products that exploit those feelings), and learn to observe (not control or hack) my child; he is his own person and has his “rhythm.”, [–]ttcthrowaway2020 [score hidden] 15 hours ago (2 children), There was a lot I didn't agree with in the book, but also a lot that I found really useful - Especially around maintaining individuality, and giving children space to learn for themselves. [–]BButFirstCoffeeTeam Blue! On the blank scientific face of it, there���s not much more to say about the subject. Fatherly has it: advice, gear reviews & life tips. You're not going to die! After a few weeks, I felt like I had really locked down the "getting to sleep" issue. I mean, he’s my husband, I don’t think it’s internalized misogyny to want to attract him. [–]Allibob1 [score hidden] 17 hours ago (8 children), You can’t really imagine what it’s like to be giving birth and have zero control and at the mercy of the doctors on staff if you haven’t done it yet. I think there are a small number of people who truly don’t care how they give birth, who are fine being on their back with their legs spread, etc. [–]beetFarmingBachelor [score hidden] 12 hours ago (0 children). So I can only find glowing reviews of this book online and I feel like I’m taking crazy pills here. This problem was pretty much gone by Day 3, and 100% gone after a week. I probably put on 5-10 lbs more than I needed to. Amidst all the talk this past week about Pamela Druckerman���s new book, Bringing However, almost all the time I can put her down within five minutes, which feels like such a weight has been lifted compared to what it was like before. ": How reading about ��� And the quality of the care providers when it's a respected, well-paid profession... [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (0 children). So the way to fix this is Medicare for all. I sometimes joke that I would like to have a Queens birth , So when I read this book I wrote a novella-length response that I typed up but never posted. Looking for a new voice in practical parenting advice & evidence-based insights from top parenting experts? [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 17 hours ago (2 children). Chuuya: - All he saw was red This weekend I met my friend Samuel at the park. As much as I hate to admit it, I definitely used pregnancy to indulge more than I normally would. My midwives didn’t care that it was my first time, I still was allowed autonomy and control over my experience. I’m hoping to move around my room and try varying positions to maximize engagement, rotation, and FER during active and pushing phases. 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